SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. YES OR NO?

Having abstained from sex while dating, (for almost eight years), I think I dare to share with you what worked for me, for us. I’m also sharing because some people who know our story have asked how we did it. HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PREMARITAL SEX It should be obvious to all of us that we live in a sex-mad culture, we live in a culture that is indulging itself in every conceivable and inconceivable sexual activity. Not only is sexual sin tolerated and seen as a norm, and not just being tolerated and advocated, it is promoted, marketed through…

WHY SHOULD YOU RAISE A FEMINIST SON?

What is a FEMINIST? A FEMINIST is a person that supports feminism. What is FEMINISM? Gender equality! That’s it. Simple! Most parents are so focused on raising their daughters to be outspoken and to know how to fight stereotypes, learn self-love and confidence. Then we end up forgetting about the boys. Boys need to be taught feminism just like we teach our girls. We need more boys who are FEMINIST. If we don’t teach them, society will teach them patriarchy. And that is difficult to unlearn. I had a conversation with my son a while ago. He was concerned about…

6 REASONS WHY WOMEN NEED MARRIAGE FOR NOTHING.

WOMEN NEED MARRIAGE FOR NOTHING Written By Esiri Ukueku Uduaghan. WARNING: I’m approaching this topic from a PRAGMATIC and CEREBRAL point of view, SO PLEASE if you do not possess the ability to reason within those boundaries (i.e Religious and Moral Police) please swerve to the left. 😊Thank you. Here we go👇 Growing up in a patriarchal society as a young girl, you are socially engineered to look forward to your wedding day. I guess it’s something in the breast milk female babies are fed🤣. Your Wedding day is the ultimate day of your life and you are expected to…

The true reason behind the black and white pictures posted on social media.

Here’s to all my strong, unbroken, independent, fearless and incredible women out there. For those who are not sure about this whole challenge , it was initially created to support Turkish women as they are being increasingly brutalized and murdered with little to no charges being brought against their attackers but it got watered down when it went international. They post black and white pictures the same way we posted the blackout Tuesday for blacklivesmatter. I had to edit my hashtags to create more exposure to raise the awareness. If you’ve posted a black and white photo without a message…

THIS MOM SHARED HOW THE “SCORECARD STRATEGY ” TRANSFORMED HER KIDS.

I stumbled upon this amazing story that a mom shared on her Facebook page. It was very relatable and inspiring. I reached out to her to share her story. I hope you enjoy this and learn from it too. Happy reading. I value my sanity. No, I have more than enough to spare to some of you parents who feel like pulling out your hair. I want to tell you a little something I discovered during the lockdown. The first few weeks of the lockdown was quite overwhelming for me. I had to deal with so many things all at…

MAKE SURE YOU KNOW THESE SAFETY TIPS BEFORE YOU GO trick-or-treating.

Have you noticed the news during any festive season? Halloween is not any different. Well, I’m not trying to scare you. But there is no harm in learning more safety tips. I did some research and was able to gether some safety tips for the trick-or-treaters. * Stay within your neighborhood. * Approach only the houses that have their lights on. * Stay on sidewalks * carry a flashlight with you. https://www.amazon.ca/EverBrite-Penlight-Aluminum-Flashlight-Batteries/dp/B01JZ9E0F2 * Avoid wearing costumes that drag on the floor. That is a huge safety issue. * Please keep a distance from pet animals you don’t know. * Put…

12 secrets to a powerful healthy vagina.

Not every woman really knows the right way to care for her vagina. How do you wipe down there after you pee or poo? Are you doing it right? You might be Shocked to know you’ve been doing it wrong all these years. Alot of females practice bad vaginal hygiene and are too embarrassed to ask questions about the right technique. I am here to ease your embarrassment and provide you with a very proven accurate information. Below are 12 easy tips for a healthy vagina. 1). Please wear 100% cotton underwear. Stay away from nylon or polyester etc. 2).…

7 THINGS PARENTS WITH SUCCESSFUL CHILDREN HAVE IN COMMON.

I have a habit of asking parents that have successful children how they raised their kids into successful adults. Why do I ask them? The reason is because, I am a strong believer of experience. Tell me your story please. Let us be honest, we all want to raise great kids. We want them to be self sufficient,prosperous and happy human beings. With all the craziness going on in the world, it is almost impossible to not get distracted. So the question is, what have these amazing parents done to make their kids great and successful? I spoke to a…

MY PARENTS KILLED MY DREAMS!!

I met an older Lady in her 70s somewhere in the community. She takes care of her sick son who is palliative . She visits him at the hospital on a daily basis.. From talking to her, I could tell how dedicated she is to her family . She also takes care of her sick husband who is in hospice care. We got talking, I am very good at asking questions lol, call me nosy, that’s ok, its part of my job to dig deep by showing empathy. When you ask questions and show care, you will be surprised at…

MY FIRST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPERIENCE.

MY FIRST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPERIENCE. I went out for dinner with my friends . While we were eating dinner, a girl ran inside and rushed to hide somewhere. Few seconds later, a guy ran inside screaming . With fear, the girl came out of her hiding place. The guy gave her a sounding slap in the face, pushed her to the ground, and grabbed her keys and phone from her. Mind you, there were kids inside the restaurant with their parents. Everything happened so fast. None of us called 911 because it happened so quick with shock. It was like…

7 COOL SUMMER CAMP IDEAS FOR KIDS YOU PROBABLY NEVER KNEW ABOUT.

Hey parents, it’s almost the end of the school year. I know a lot of you are probably searching for activities for the kids to do this summer. Well guess what? I’ve gathered some really cool information for you. If you are searching for a challenging summer camp ideas to keep their brains and imagination working, look no further and keep reading. Here are seven cool ideas for your kids 1). BUSINESS AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP CLASS. The kids are taught to design and produce an innovative product and learn how to use marketing tools to promote their products (10 to 13…

Menstruation In Africa

#May28 #MenstrualHygieneDay 1) Do you know that millions of girls in Africa have to miss school and other social activities because they are menstruating and can’t afford sanitary pads? Not having access to basic feminine hygiene products to manage menstruation limits girls and women and affects their self-esteem. Imagine our females having to miss school, exams, sports activities, work and social gatherings because they can’t afford sanitary pads. Heartbreaking! Imagine the fear and anxiety many girls experience each time they are menstruating because they know the wad of toilet paper, newspaper, plastic bag, socks or rag they stuffed in their…

5 effective ways to help kids prevent & stop procrastinating.

Procrastination is a silent dream killer. I call it a time sucker. It is enjoyable with bad consequences like “failure” and “delay” most times. It is a “time waster”, PERIOD! Unfortunately, a lot of people aren’t where they are supposed to be in their career or education simply because of procrastination. It is a very convenient way to escape important tasks. Why do we procrastinate? Two things. Laziness and fear are the two main causes. These factors affect kids too. How do we help our kids to overcome procrastination? Over the years, I have used these 5 powerful tips that…

ARE YOU RAISING A “CONFIDENT” OR A “STUCK UP OVER CONFIDENT KID?”

This just happened. My 6yr old daughter drew a unicorn. Her 12 years old brother was about to make remarks about her drawing. She quickly hid her work. I immediately told her to never hide her work from nobody. If anyone says a mean thing about her work , calls her bad names, she should tell them ” she is better and smarter than them and they just hating 🙄🙄. I explained to her that not everyone will appreciate or value her work. That’s life. But the most important thing is for her to “believe in herself and her work…

5 MINUTES DINNER IDEA KIDS LOVE.

How to make baked potatoes in 5 minutes and your kids will love it. 1) . Wash the potatoes 2) . Cut into small pieces. 3). Put in oven pan 4). Add spices ( salt , pepper , maggi , thyme , curry , all purpose seasoning, garlic powder) . 5). Mix ingredients well with potatoes. 6). Add cooking oil ( one tsp) 7). Add a sprinkle of water 8). Shake and mix all together. 9 ). Cover with foil paper or parchment paper. 10) . Bake in oven for 15 minutes at 350 degrees Celsius. Watch this video on…

10 secret tips to achieve naija party jollof rice taste and aroma.

Whenever I go to parties, the rice always tasted different from what i cook at home. I became very curious. I was very eager to know the secret recipe that made party jollof taste different. I searched so many videos and articles. I still wasn’t satisfied with the results. One day, i made a post requesting for a secret recipe on a Facebook group called “sytycc” . The response was amazing. So I tried almost every comment lol. The only thing I had no access to was the firewood. But trust me, when you use this recipe I’m about to…