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SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. YES OR NO?

Having abstained from sex while dating, (for almost eight years), I think I dare to share with you what worked for me, for us. I’m also sharing because some people who know our story have asked how we did it. HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PREMARITAL SEX It should be obvious to all of us that we live in a sex-mad culture, we live in a culture that is indulging itself in every conceivable and inconceivable sexual activity. Not only is sexual sin tolerated and seen as a norm, and not just being tolerated and advocated, it is promoted, marketed through…

6 REASONS WHY WOMEN NEED MARRIAGE FOR NOTHING.

WOMEN NEED MARRIAGE FOR NOTHING Written By Esiri Ukueku Uduaghan. WARNING: I’m approaching this topic from a PRAGMATIC and CEREBRAL point of view, SO PLEASE if you do not possess the ability to reason within those boundaries (i.e Religious and Moral Police) please swerve to the left. 😊Thank you. Here we go👇 Growing up in a patriarchal society as a young girl, you are socially engineered to look forward to your wedding day. I guess it’s something in the breast milk female babies are fed🤣. Your Wedding day is the ultimate day of your life and you are expected to…

The true reason behind the black and white pictures posted on social media.

Here’s to all my strong, unbroken, independent, fearless and incredible women out there. For those who are not sure about this whole challenge , it was initially created to support Turkish women as they are being increasingly brutalized and murdered with little to no charges being brought against their attackers but it got watered down when it went international. They post black and white pictures the same way we posted the blackout Tuesday for blacklivesmatter. I had to edit my hashtags to create more exposure to raise the awareness. If you’ve posted a black and white photo without a message…

THIS MOM SHARED HOW THE “SCORECARD STRATEGY ” TRANSFORMED HER KIDS.

I stumbled upon this amazing story that a mom shared on her Facebook page. It was very relatable and inspiring. I reached out to her to share her story. I hope you enjoy this and learn from it too. Happy reading. I value my sanity. No, I have more than enough to spare to some of you parents who feel like pulling out your hair. I want to tell you a little something I discovered during the lockdown. The first few weeks of the lockdown was quite overwhelming for me. I had to deal with so many things all at…

Menstruation In Africa

#May28 #MenstrualHygieneDay 1) Do you know that millions of girls in Africa have to miss school and other social activities because they are menstruating and can’t afford sanitary pads? Not having access to basic feminine hygiene products to manage menstruation limits girls and women and affects their self-esteem. Imagine our females having to miss school, exams, sports activities, work and social gatherings because they can’t afford sanitary pads. Heartbreaking! Imagine the fear and anxiety many girls experience each time they are menstruating because they know the wad of toilet paper, newspaper, plastic bag, socks or rag they stuffed in their…

MY PARENTS KILLED MY DREAMS!!

I met an older Lady in her 70s somewhere in the community. She takes care of her sick son who is palliative . She visits him at the hospital on a daily basis.. From talking to her, I could tell how dedicated she is to her family . She also takes care of her sick husband who is in hospice care. We got talking, I am very good at asking questions lol, call me nosy, that’s ok, its part of my job to dig deep by showing empathy. When you ask questions and show care, you will be surprised at…

Sex Education And Kids.

I made a poll sometime ago on Instagram asking Parents if they preferred to be the first sex educator to their kids or not. 80% of Parents chose yes, 20% chose No. That poll inspired me to write a blog on this topic. Children are not always as innocent as you may think they are. Alot of kids are exposed to sex talks earlier than you think by their peers , tv or social media. I will tell you today, that it”s  best to be their first sex educator. As parents, we want to make sure the kids have enough…

Teach The Boys How To Do House Chores Too.

This Was A Conversation Between Me And My Son. My son will be 11 soon. Today is saturday. Most people clean the house on the weekends. So today I woke him up to wash his bathtub and toilet. This was our conversation 👇👇. Me : oya oh, coman take {come get} stuff to wash your bathroom like I taught you. You have watched me enough. Him: But mom I am so tired, I wanna rest a little bit. ( meanwhile, he was playing in his room before I called him , but now he is tired all of a sudden). Me: you…

What Books Do Your Kids Read?

       What books do your kids read?  Here are five  important steps to know your kids are reading the appropriate book for their age Check Parental Reviews If you have a kid that loves reading,  it’s good to keep track of the type of books they read and TV shows they watch. Do your research on parental review on that particular book. Peer pressure is tough.  Even young kids want a sense of “belongings ” amongst their friends.  They wanna be cool too. Check youtube There is a book series my son has been showing interest in lately.  It’s the…

“The Perfect Wife”

Men are complianing, It’s so hard to find the “Perfect African wife”. To Some, below 👇 are the qualities of a “good wife”. Over the years, I have read a lot of comments and post online from Africans . Some real life discussions have exposed me to their mentality as well. I have come to realize that most African men would prefer a naive woman. She can be educated, but not street smart. She must be extremely submissive to the point of giving him all her earnings, investments, and not able to make any decisions related to her well-being without…