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Menstruation In Africa

#May28 #MenstrualHygieneDay 1) Do you know that millions of girls in Africa have to miss school and other social activities because they are menstruating and can’t afford sanitary pads? Not having access to basic feminine hygiene products to manage menstruation limits girls and women and affects their self-esteem. Imagine our females having to miss school, exams, sports activities, work and social gatherings because they can’t afford sanitary pads. Heartbreaking! Imagine the fear and anxiety many girls experience each time they are menstruating because they know the wad of toilet paper, newspaper, plastic bag, socks or rag they stuffed in their…

MY PARENTS KILLED MY DREAMS!!

I met an older Lady in her 70s somewhere in the community. She takes care of her sick son who is palliative . She visits him at the hospital on a daily basis.. From talking to her, I could tell how dedicated she is to her family . She also takes care of her sick husband who is in hospice care. We got talking, I am very good at asking questions lol, call me nosy, that’s ok, its part of my job to dig deep by showing empathy. When you ask questions and show care, you will be surprised at…

Sex Education And Kids.

I made a poll sometime ago on Instagram asking Parents if they preferred to be the first sex educator to their kids or not. 80% of Parents chose yes, 20% chose No. That poll inspired me to write a blog on this topic. Children are not always as innocent as you may think they are. Alot of kids are exposed to sex talks earlier than you think by their peers , tv or social media. I will tell you today, that it”s  best to be their first sex educator. As parents, we want to make sure the kids have enough…

Teach The Boys How To Do House Chores Too.

This Was A Conversation Between Me And My Son. My son will be 11 soon. Today is saturday. Most people clean the house on the weekends. So today I woke him up to wash his bathtub and toilet. This was our conversation 👇👇. Me : oya oh, coman take {come get} stuff to wash your bathroom like I taught you. You have watched me enough. Him: But mom I am so tired, I wanna rest a little bit. ( meanwhile, he was playing in his room before I called him , but now he is tired all of a sudden). Me: you…

What Books Do Your Kids Read?

       What books do your kids read?  Here are five  important steps to know your kids are reading the appropriate book for their age Check Parental Reviews If you have a kid that loves reading,  it’s good to keep track of the type of books they read and TV shows they watch. Do your research on parental review on that particular book. Peer pressure is tough.  Even young kids want a sense of “belongings ” amongst their friends.  They wanna be cool too. Check youtube There is a book series my son has been showing interest in lately.  It’s the…

“The Perfect Wife”

Men are complianing, It’s so hard to find the “Perfect African wife”. To Some, below 👇 are the qualities of a “good wife”. Over the years, I have read a lot of comments and post online from Africans . Some real life discussions have exposed me to their mentality as well. I have come to realize that most African men would prefer a naive woman. She can be educated, but not street smart. She must be extremely submissive to the point of giving him all her earnings, investments, and not able to make any decisions related to her well-being without…

Who Are Your Friends?

Who are your friends? I ran into an old friend at an event about a yr ago. She was with another friend of hers. She looked so beautiful and well put together. I really admired her beauty and outfit. It was time for us to take a picture, she refused. But She took over 40 pictures of herself, i swear to God. She hated every single one of them. She complianed about her arms, face, belly and so many other things that we all do complian about. I was so sad because all I could see was a beautiful woman . I…

Confidence can be learned from an early age.

CONFIDENCE IS NOT A PERSONALITY TRAIT. IT IS A LEARNED SKILL. Nobody is born with confidence. Please don’t mistake “stubbornness ” with “confidence” . You as a parent have to sow that seed. I will share an experience. We went to the mall to shop for some school supplies. It was time to pay , so we lined up waiting for our turn to go to the cash register. The lineup was so long that it was blocking the entrance to the other side of the store. My 4yr old daughter found something she liked on the other side of…

Use This Easy Trick To Make Your Kids Tidy Up Fast Like A pro.

I used to wonder how some parents kept their house so spotless. I told my kids I love dirt these days, with a smirk on my face, they were shocked. I was so tired of screaming “tidy up your toys”, and especially when I had relatives and their kids over. What I started doing, was to add my own stuff on the floor too, and I would grab my phone pretending to call their friends for a playdate . Oh they… knew that would not be cute, and I am capable of doing it. The speed they used in cleaning up afterwards, was magical  . You know  what? Your…

Large Family? Not For Me!!!

I Love parenting. But, how do people really cope with 5kids or more? I mean, that must be hardwork . No disrespect though, and I totally respect their decision.  I have just 2kids and it feels like I have 10 of them. As they grow older, My shouting gets louder and stronger. I think my voice just hit puberty because of the constant screaming . It’s sounding more matured these days.. Was this what I also did to my parents? When you tell them eat fast, that is the time they turn to a snail. And this is supposed to be the time…